Saturday, June 25, 2011

18 Years

It's 10:00 my time, so midnight Oklahoma time. 18 years ago right now, I was still out with my bridesmaids and other close friends being silly in Tulsa. They made me look ridiculous, took me to Albertsons (only I'm sure it was not Albertson's at the time . . . that store' been so many different things over the years . . . Food Pyramid now, I believe) and embarrassed me, then drove me to Tulsa to TGI Fridays and embarrassed me some more. We had fun giggling and enjoying each other, then got to bed far too late. I was up early the next morning to get ready for the day.

I loved my wedding day! It was perfect with the exception of not being able to be at much of our reception because of pictures . . . and the simplicity of the reception. It was beautiful, even the teal bridesmaid's dresses, which Brent looks back on and doesn't like (but I think that's all part of it)!!! They were a beautiful color then!!! Our wedding was a little long probably, but we loved it, and it was OUR wedding!! We had a lot of songs. Our parents sang. Brent wrote me a song with Larry Dearman's help with music, and Terri sang it. My roommate sang a song, and Larry also sang another song!!! Then we had all the other traditional things of the time . . . unity candle, communion, vows, a prayer with all of our parents.

Brent had beautiful bouquets of flowers made, one for Joyce and one for Vinita (his biological mother). I knew nothing about it until the wedding day. I knew how thoughtful he was, but those flowers coupled with the song he wrote for me so confirmed to me the heart of the man I was marrying. He continues to be equally amazing to this day!!!

I shed lots of tears that day . . . tears of happiness (I think I cried most of the way through the wedding) and tears of sadness, saying goodbye to my parents who would be long gone from Bartlesville by the time we returned home. The next time I saw them things would be just a little different since I now had a husband and was no longer just their little girl, and that was a little hard even though I was so excited. We also had lots of laughs that day. During the wedding, Grandpa Colaw referred to me as the husband or Brent as the wife (I can't remember which). I thought he said it wrong, but I was nervous and uncertain, so I corrected him, but with some hesitation. I remember everyone laughing behind me. But the funnier thing (funnier now than then) is that when we got to Tulsa after the wedding and went to check into our hotel room, they asked Brent for ID. You had to be 21 to rent a room, and we were not. They almost didn't give us our room, and did, in fact, ask Brent to call his parents to drive to Tulsa to rent the room for us. Yes, talk about an awkward moment. Brent refused and ultimately the poor lady let us check in.

I can hardly believe it has been 18 years since that amazing day! No day will ever be the same. Sometimes I wish we could go back in time and relive certain moments. This is one of them. I loved that day, everything about it. I can't be honest and say that I have loved every day since then, but I can say that I do love the journey that we have had together and will continue to have. Brent is the best husband and best friend I could ask for. God knew what he was doing when he brought us together. I cannot imagine where my life would be without him. Marriage is not always easy . . . in fact most of the time it isn't easy. When it seems to be easy, I think I better watch out because Satan will probably be attacking. But marriage is incredible. I am so thankful for the things God teaches me through Brent and our relationship. I am blessed as I look back over the last 18 years of my life with Brent . . . so many little memories pop into my mind, and I smile. Thanks, God, for the most amazing husband in the world!!!